Learning to live again wholeheartedly includes letting love flow freely in and out of your heart.
A feeling of pleasure or solace can be so hard to find when you are in the depths of your grief. Sometimes it’s the little things that help get you through the day. You may think your comforts sound ridiculous to others, but there is nothing ridiculous about finding one little thing to help you feel good in the midst of pain and sorrow!
It is important to recognize when you have been detached from life for too long. The fact is you are still alive, and I can only imagine that your loved one would want you to go on living. I highly doubt they would have said to you, “When or if I die before you, I want you to spend the rest of your life sitting on a couch staring at the wall. Please fulfill this important task for me.
It’s my own deep-rooted feeling that our souls never truly die and that life continues in some way. I know I need to have patience as my beliefs continue to evolve with my personal growth. As I’ve looked around at the things I do have in my life, I’ve gradually started to trust in life again, little by little. I think, “How could all of these other amazing things come into my life if there was not something larger than me?
Remember to view yourself and your humanness with a kind heart.
Mothering while grieving should involve being understanding and keeping a gentle attitude toward yourself as you work to balance your own needs and your child’s. You become stronger by remaining aware of your own well-being, which in turn makes you a stronger person for your child or children.
Each loss brings growth with it, and learning to handle new experiences and taking charge of your needs is part of the transformative process.
It is okay to release your feelings when you feel the waves coming. It’s all part of the process of having to let go of your relationship with your loved one as you once knew it. And remember, letting go is not the same thing as forgetting!
We never truly “get over” a loss, but we can move forward and evolve from it.