Just about ANY personality trait or skill can be learned: simply find it in someone you know and copy it. Then watch what happens.
But I give best when I give from that deeper place; when I give simply, freely and generously, and sometimes for no particular reason. I give best when I give from my heart.
If having problems feels like a problem to you, it may not be the problems themselves, but the way you think about them that is the problem.
When you assess your own life, consider it with the eye of a gardener. Underneath the surface lies rich, fertile soil waiting to nurture the seeds you sow. Even more than you can imagine will grow there if given a chance.
The only people I am aware of who don’t have troubles are gathered in peaceful, little neighborhoods. There is never a care, never a moment of stress and never an obstacle to ruin a day. All is calm. All is serene. Most towns have at least one such worry-free zone. We call them cemeteries.
Here is little habit that can make a big difference. Send sunbeams. Intentionally send a word of encouragement or appreciation every day to one person.
Still the voices of your critics. Listen intently to your own voice, to the person who knows you best. Then answer these questions: Do you think you should move ahead? How will you feel if you quit pursuing this thing you want to do? And what does your best self advise? What you hear may change your life.
Yes, love your family, and also love your friends. For some friends are truly family. Love the people in your life. Love them without measure. And don’t worry about spoilage. Potatoes spoil, people don’t spoil.
Of course we need to accept ourselves as we are, but we can’t stop there. We also need to value ourselves enough make needed changes.
No work you’ll ever complete;
no project you’ll ever attempt;
no skill you’ll ever master;
no book you’ll ever write;
no race you’ll ever run;
no sculpture you’ll ever create;
no task you’ll ever perform;
no structure you’ll ever build;
nothing you will ever do —
is more important than the life you shape one day at a time.