A verse from a short poem – ‘Philosophy is Forestry’s Child’ – in my Foreword:
Ask not which came first, the acorn or the oak.
We came as children of the forest;
First our wooden cradle, then our kindling for industry.
Instead think forward — trees will shelter us from ourselves.
Suddenly, in my mind I hear my father say, ‘Mind over matter, son. You can do this. You can accomplish anything as long as you really want to.
You make me feel at home in my own skin, and that is one of the greatest gifts anyone has ever given me.
… sexual abuse by the mother is considered to he one of the most traumatic forms of abuse. In some ways it’s the ultimate betrayal.
Religion is the world’s label for following God. But, it is a one-on-one, daily and personal relationship that God seeks from all of us.
There’s freedom in hitting bottom, in seeing that you won’t be able to save or rescue your daughter, her spouse, his parents, or your career, relief in admitting you’ve reached the place of great unknowing. This is where restoration can begin, because when you’re still in the state of trying to fix the unfixable, everything bad is engaged: the chatter of your mind, the tension of your physiology, all the trunks and wheel-ons you carry from the past. It’s exhausting, crazy-making.
The table that cannot stand upright, is an insult to the carpenter who makes it. God made us perfectly; so when we refuse to carry out the functions we were created for, our father loses the glory He deserves!
Survivors often develop an exaggerated need for control in their adult relationships. It’s the only way they feel safe. They also struggle with commitment-saying yes in a relationship means being trapped in yet another family situation where abuse might take place. So the survivor panics as her relationship gets closer, certain that something terrible is going to happen. She pulls away, rejects, or tests her partner all the time.
Live is not about constantly fighting to keep someone in your life. It is about constantly fighting for a better life together.
Some people behind leave a legacy, some leave behind children. Which would you prefer?