She led me to believe we will going fast because her thoughts were going fast.
As for the fear, you’ll have to put up with that like the rest of us.
He was agitated for some reason that he could not name. (page 35)
Anxiety is a sign that you have made up a story contrary to reality. Love does not fear.
Understanding the difference between healthy striving and perfectionism is critical to laying down the shield and picking up your life. Research shows that perfectionism hampers success. In fact, it’s often the path to depression, anxiety, addiction, and life paralysis.
Calling someone equally as anxious on the phone makes you feel less alone. Sometimes the best thing to hear is not “Don’t worry, it’s going to be okay” but actually “Tell me about it! The whole world is going to explode and I haven’t slept for weeks. Now let me tell you about my specific fears of small boats and big businesses!
We are all the product of our past and have to live with our memories and personality they cannot be erased.
God only knew what ran underneath the fierce self-discipline and emotional control that had come with my upbringing. But the cracks were there, I knew it, and they frightened me.
Few men realize how much of their lives are lived in pursuit of the values our culture has traditionally associated with masculinity. These values – a primary focus on work, logical thinking and always being in emotional control – have many benefits to men and their families. When taken to extremes, the pursuit of traditional masculine values becomes a cage for feelings, a stranglehold on life itself.
Panic attacks are crazy beasts. They don’t care what you think you’re ready for. They don’t care what you want. They just take control, and then you suffer.