We can say what we need to say. We can gently, but assertively, speak our mind. We do not need to be judgmental, tactless, blaming or cruel when we speak our truths
Don’t ever feel bad for making a decision about your own life that upsets other people. You are not responsible for their happiness. You’re responsible for your own happiness. Anyone who wants you to live in misery for their happiness should not be in your life anyway.
It’s a fact that you’re going to have a different opinion or view on certain topics or issues. You need stand your ground by sharing your view.
We despise and abhor the bully, the brawler, the oppressor, whether in private or public life, but we despise no less the coward and the voluptuary. No man is worth calling a man who will not fight rather than submit to infamy or see those that are dear to him suffer wrong.
Some people’s self-esteem was secretly improved when they discovered that their then-lovers had killed themselves over them.
It is extremely important to be able to make negative assertions. We must be able to say what is ‘not me’ in order to have a ‘me’. What we like has no meaning unless we know what we don’t like. Our yes has no meaning if we never say no. My chosen profession has no passion if ‘just anyone would do’. Our opinions and thoughts mean very little if there is nothing we disagree with.
If you have the tendency to repress your anger, you have lost touch with an important part of yourself. Getting angry is a way to gain back that part of yourself by asserting your rights, expressing your displeasure with a situation, and letting others know how you wish to be treated. It can motivate you to make needed changes in a relationship or other areas of your life. Finally it can let others know that you expect to be respected and treated fairly.
It is a childish notion that once established, our boundaries will never be transgressed again…We shall have to stand for ourselves repeatedly for the rest of our lives. As we practice doing this, we come to greater ease…Eventually it may float over entirely into the positive realm-becoming only another chance to demonstrated our worthiness.
Be assertive, in speech and in conduct.
Yet there’s no one to beat you | No one t’ defeat you | ‘Cept the thoughts of yourself feeling bad