Some people’s self-esteem was secretly improved when they discovered that their then-lovers had killed themselves over them.

WILL YOU BE BRINGING A DATE?”
“PROBABLY NOT.”
“OH COME ON,” Dora said. “I’M SURE THAT YOU MUST HAVE LOTS OF BOYFRIENDS– AND GIRLFRIENDS…”
I nod my head no and explain that my sex life is complicated.
“HOW SO?” Tommy asked.
“MY BOYFRIEND’S STRAIGHT.”
“OH. WOW,” Dora said. “MINE TOO.”
We laugh.

I love you. I hate you. I like you. I hate you. I love you. I think you’re stupid. I think you’re a loser. I think you’re wonderful. I want to be with you. I don’t want to be with you. I would never date you. I hate you. I love you…..I think the madness started the moment we met and you shook my hand. Did you have a disease or something?

The fact that you do not trust your spouse or lover doesn’t necessarily mean that they are cheating on you; and the fact that you do doesn’t necessarily mean that they aren’t.

In the end, you will not see the physical beauty in others that caught your eye, but the fire that burned within them. This kind of beauty is the bonfire you had to attend.

My mother was obviously never there to take the blame she deserved. She left me to absorb it all in her place. She was far too busy in her own world, that incidentally revolved around herself. I’m pretty sure she dated a new guy every few months for most of my childhood. Some would last longer and show up again later after disappearing for a while, like the last day of a cold or flu before you start feeling better.

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