When the river of emotions bursts its banks and expectations go over the edges of reality, the brain creates hallucinations. Ringxiety-stricken people feel illusive vibrating alerts and hear phantom phone rings, since absence of ringing generates scaring emptiness and destroys their self-esteem. (“Kein Schwein ruft mich an” )
Expectations hinder you from being prepared for the unexpected
Our identities are tremendously warped and distorted by yesterday’s trauma and tomorrow’s expectations.
If you spent your life concentrating on what everyone else thought of you, would you forget who you really were? What if the face you showed the world turned out to be a mask… with nothing beneath it?
I have found that the most significant experiences of our lives rarely come when we’re expecting them and oftentimes when we’re not even paying attention.
The lower your expectation the easier and happier your life will be
If your paramount concern in life is to make sure everyone likes and approves of you, you’re going to find yourself running in circles for the rest of your life.
The greatest weapon anyone can use against us is our own mind. By preying upon the doubts and uncertainities that already lurk there. Are we true to ourselves or do we live to the expectations of others? And if we are open and honest, can we ever truly be loved? Can we find the courage to release our deepest secrets? Or in the end are we all unknowable even to ourselves.
I’ve learned that I have to stop equating saying yes with being a good person. I think I am being good when I say yes to everything, but saying yes to something I cannot live up to leads to bitterness and disappointment.
We freeze up because we expect a certain result or because we want things to be perfect.