Do women dress for men or women? I’ve always wondered why that eternally provocative question is put in terms of approval – as if the heart of the matter, the answer, were indeed a question of approval by either sex. But the question is never satisfactorily answered because it is incorrectly posed. It’s disapproval, the fear of it, that motivates most women, and with disapproval it doesn’t matter where it comes from.
Usually when you see females in movies, they feel like they have these metallic structures around them, they are caged by male energy.
Better, perhaps, to dress like a whore around the clock and thus achieve a fully integrated personality.
Men who shared the load at home seemed just as pressed for time as their wives, and torn between the demands of career and small children…But the majority of men did not share the load at home. Some refused outright. Others refused more passively, often offering a loving shoulder to lean on, an understanding ear as their working wife faced the conflict they both saw as hers.
American women are characteristically frigid and materialistic. The man who ‘has his way’ with an American girl is under a material obligation to her. The woman has granted a material favour. In cases of divorce American law overwhelmingly favours the woman. American women will divorce readily enough when they see a better bargain. It is frequently the case in America that a woman will be married to one man but already ‘engaged’ to a future husband, the man she plans to marry after a profitable divorce.
If knowledge is lacking, your destruction is inevitable.
I want you to promise me that you’ll stop comparing yourself to everyone else.’
‘What?’ I broke off the hug, not understanding.
‘You. Evelyn. You’re always like, ‘I wish I coulld be like this’ or ‘I wish I could be more like so-and-so’. You’re obsessed with being normal, but that’s well boring, and you’re extraordinary, Evie. Promise me you’ll stop trying to stop stop being you’.
I don’t understand all the nuances of the women’s movement. But I do understand that there are feminists who want to challenge the dominant paradigm, not only of patriarchy, but of where the original wealth came from and the relationship of that wealth to other peoples and the earth. That is the only way that that I think you can really get to the depth of the problem.
Under the whole “personal is political” motto of feminism, I feel that personal kindness, treating people decently, is political-is punk.
I have always been attracted to male writers who can demonstrate their love and affection for women with ease, yet not draw attention to themselves.