But don’t they say that all is fair in love and war? I heard that somewhere.”
“‘They?’ Who are ‘they?'”
“I don’t know. Just people.”
“That’s what the victorious claim, not the defeated; the powerful, not the powerless. ‘All is fair.’ ‘The end justifies the means.’ Is that what you believe?

Don’t say to yourself, ‘Everyone argues!’ to justify and normalise your fighting, when the most natural thing is to love.

The fact that people are in positions does not justify the means that they are leaders. A leader can be blind and to know this, check his sense of vision.