I’m not going to hide away and leave my friends to the corelings!
A dominant ideology represents the view of a dominant group, often by making the existing order seem inevitable. Thus, by depicting motherhood as natural, a patriarchal ideology of mothering locks women into biological reproduction, and denies them identities and selfhood outside mothering.
Have I been conditioned to believe that if I am not solicitous, if I am not forthcoming, if I am not a never-ending cornicopia of entertaining delights, they will take their collections of milk-bottle tops and their mangy one-eared teddy bears and go away into the woods by themselves to play snipers? Probably. What my mother thinks was merely cute may have been lethal.
Huh. What a dope! Wait till Mom hears about this. He’s so in trouble now. You know how crazy she gets about malaria.
A wise mother knows: It is her state of consciousness that matters. Her gentleness and clarity command respect. Her love creates security.
It may be that mothers have a hard time discerning between when sons need comforting and when they need bucking up. Here’s a rule of thumb: If he hasn’t faced the trial yet, or he’s in the midst of it – encourage him. If he’s been to the wars and is limping home wounded – comfort him. Once the wounds are bound up, encourage him to rise and face the fight again.
Mother, just like the last fifty-five thousand times you’ve mentioned it, I have no intention of getting married and having a family. You’re just going to have to content yourself with the grandchildren you already have.
Sweater, n. Garment worn by child when its mother is feeling chilly.