Survivors often develop an exaggerated need for control in their adult relationships. It’s the only way they feel safe. They also struggle with commitment-saying yes in a relationship means being trapped in yet another family situation where abuse might take place. So the survivor panics as her relationship gets closer, certain that something terrible is going to happen. She pulls away, rejects, or tests her partner all the time.

If your love for another person doesn’t include loving yourself then your love is incomplete.

This was getting uglier by the minute, I thought. There really was no easy escape, since we were sitting far from the exit and the waiters knew me from prior dinner dates with Ashley and I hadn’t paid the tab yet.

From: “My Worst Valentine’s Day.Ever: a Short Story

The longer you remain distant, the deeper, wider, and darker the chasm becomes making it all the more difficult to bridge.

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