Life is a great adventure.
You cannot help people permanently by doing for them, what they could and should do for themselves.
If he had the earth for his pasture and the sea for his pond, he would be a pauper still. He only is rich who owns the day. There is no king, rich man, fairy or demon who possesses such power as that.
Sixty Days and Counting, by Kim Stanley Robinson
She was looking for something I could never give her.” Again his dark eyes bored into Julia’s mind. “You have something of the same about you, young woman. Take my advice: Don’t think you will find it in another person. You won’t. It’s not there. You must find it in yourself.
For it is in your power to retire into yourself whenever you choose.
If you truly want to be respected by people you love, you must prove to them that you can survive without them.
Mediate on the word of God. The well spring of life.
Insist on yourself; never imitate. Your own gift you can present every moment with the cumulative force of a whole life’s cultivation; but of the adopted talent of another you have only an extemporaneous half possession. That which each can do best, none but his Maker can teach him.
If you’ve put yourself in a position where someone has to see you in order for you to be safe – to see you, and to give a fuck – you’ve already blown it.
The only way to know is to learn, relearn and unlearn.